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This was going to be a totally different discussion today but something happened yesterday that compels me to change course a bit. Last week I worked really hard to get back on track after the holidays and I was feeling really good especially after my weigh in on Wednesday.

This was a good thing because I was attending an annual meeting/luncheon for a group that I have belonged to for a few years. They met me when I was weighing in at over 200 lbs. and now here I am over 70 lbs. lighter. Anyway, I am digressing a bit but here I am at this luncheon and a woman comes over and says, ” You know I hate you. I really shouldn’t be talking to you.” A friend of mine was standing there and said, ” Doesn’t she look fabulous?” to which this woman just kind of mumbled a bit and turned away. Why do women have to do that to each other? We should be happy for each other when we accomplish positive things and be there to support one another. I worked really hard to lose this weight and am really at a loss for words when I hear comments like that. How should you respond back to that? I usually just laugh and blow it off but sometimes it gets a bit annoying.

This has happened to me a few times and while the ladies just laugh as if to indicate that this is a joke, there is a bit of mean spiritedness behind it. We need to stop this and be there for each other. I have learned to ignore these comments and concentrate on the positive ones. Most people are very supportive and wonderful but there are always a few that are not that happy for you. Don’t let that deter you from your ultimate goal. Seriously, if I can do it you can do it! There are also a lot of other people that have succeeded as well and they should be the ones that inspire us to do better and to be better. Let’s all share our stories and applaud the victories and be there to support one another through the trials and tribulations of weight loss.

What comments have people made that have inspired you or have saddened you? How have you responded? Let’s all use this week ahead to think about what we say and how we say it and try to bring a ray of sunshine with us as we go through each day. We can all make the world a brighter happier place to live in!

Starting Weight: 203  Current Weight: 131.8

It is now the middle of January and some of us have already abandoned those pesky New Year’s resolutions. It’s hard when the holidays are over and there is not a lot to look forward to. Sometimes change is daunting and it is just easier to fall back into bad habits.

My resolutions this year are different for the first time in many years. I’ve been overweight for much of my life and have become accustomed to the title. However, last March I was tired of being fat and ready to do something about it. No more excuses. It wasn’t easy but I had done a lot of the work before hand and in nine months I lost 70 pounds and am the lightest I’ve ever been in my adult life. It feels fabulous and I am truly grateful but I also know that I may have won a battle ( a big one I know) but I have not won the war. Maintaining a big weight loss is a monumental task. You only have to pick up the closest magazine at the check out line to see pictures of stars who have put weight back on. This year I will be writing about my struggles (because I know there will be some) and my successes ( I know there will be those too). My two constants will be 1. weighing myself once a week every week and printing it in my blog (my weigh-in day is Wednesday) and 2. having a 5 lb. rule. If at any time my weight is 5 lbs. over my current weight I am back full force on my weight loss plan to get it off. NO EXCUSES.

The first big issue (no pun intended) is to realize that I am not fat anymore. This is tough for anyone who has been a fat kid or fat for a long time. Once a fat kid always a fat kid. It never goes away. I’ve noticed a lot of people bringing this up recently. Governor Chris Christie of New Jersey spoke of it when he was interviewed on Oprah last Sunday and the new episode of New Girl  which aired this week on the Fox network also touched upon it. The character, Schmidt, was overweight as a kid and into his early adult life and he was still fighting the images he had of himself that had been formed then. Those feelings of shame and frustration are always there lingering beneath the surface. It is time to change the image. I’m ready!  Current Weight: 134